I have a lot of important content and info to give to you but I’m going to keep this as short as I possibly can but my intentions are to show you what not to do in real estate investing.
When you start flipping houses, the one thing you think about day and night is closing your first deal. That can be both good and bad. Now why is trying to get that 1st one under your belt bad you say? Because you can want it so bad that you do the absolute worst things that every one (my mentor) tells you not to do.
What a sweet deal
I had a pretty sweet deal. A monstrous 3/2 block worth about 90k. Was trying to sell it for 28k. Had it under contract for 20k.
What not to do #1:
I didn’t do enough digging for cash buyers. I only put out bandit signs. If I would have used the Drew Downs method, I probably would have found a cash buyer the first week. It was a total rehab but I knew deep down that someone was out there for this property.
What not to do #2:
Didn’t stay in contact enough with the seller. After a while of not finding a buyer for what I thought was the hottest property in Tampa, I sorta panicked. We were still in contact and everything was good at this point though.
After doing everything I could think of at the time, I resorted to calling every bandit sign I came across. I ended up hooking up with a realtor/agent/crook that basically told me he could definitely find a buyer for the property and would market it.
This brings me to mistake #3
Never ever tell anyone your thinking of working with that your new at wholesaling. Unless you know them personally. I guess his deceit radar overloaded and he jumped on the opportunity to swindle a noob out of a deal.
He immediately told me I should never tell anyone that and I could trust him. Lie #1.
What not to do #4
I trusted him. He told me he had a buyer and that I didn’t have to market the property anymore. So I didn’t. As my mentor said “you never ever stop marketing a property until you have a contract and deposit in hand.”
What not to do #5
After you get a property under contract, you market it and then look for another one, and another one. You should constantly be looking for properties to put under contract whether REO’s or private sellers. I looked for more properties to flip but I didn’t have the money to market for cash buyers like I wanted to and most of my buyers were tire kickers.
Well my contract was about to be up with dude and that’s when I get THE CALL. Cleveland has THE SHOT (Michael Jordan) and I have THE CALL.
At the time I was reading “Secrets of Master Negotiating” and I was a chapter away from the line that was about to be used on me.
“I got some good news and I got some bad news”
His buyer “backed out” was the bad news (lie) but he would go ahead and close on the deal himself and “rehab it” and rent it out.
Secrets of Master Negotiating teaches you how to leave the negotiating table with everyone feeling like they won.
The buyer walked but he would still buy the property. So I would still get paid but he wasn’t paying 22k like his buyer was. He would not do a penny over 21k. His words not mines.
What not to do #6
Has to be the biggest mistake I made. I completely lost control of MY deal. I trusted him to the point where I let him close with his title company, I gave him all the paperwork and I even gave him the phone number for the seller.
See I looked at this dude like a mentor so I let my guard down and I went from wholesaler to just seller.

See I needed to
Well after he basically told me that all I would get was a grand and I was cool with it because I felt like he was helping me by taking the property off my hands. He was helping me out right? Heck No.
He did have a buyer but he just wanted to cut me out of the deal as a partner. I didn’t even want half. Since he kinda saved the deal by letting the seller know we were working together, I was cool with just 2k instead 4k.
It gets worse but let me tell you about my mistakes first so you’ll know what NOT to do.
Being that I didn’t keep contact with the seller, I made mistake #7 which is not stay in contact with the seller to see exactly what this dude was saying behind my back and also keep the seller calm cool and motivated to sell.
He could have been telling him that I was a crook out to steal his house or something. Who knows
On top of that, I made mistake #8 when didn’t go to closing. So many big investors say never go to closing but some say you need to in the beginning to learn what goes on. I think if I would have went to closing, it would have shines a lot of light on the situation.
I should have been there with a flash light and a whistle…….. To investigate.
So let’s recap
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Didn’t look for buyers like I should have
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Didn’t stay in contact enough with seller
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Let my guard down and told him I was new at wholesaling
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trusted him 100%. (Read 48 laws of power)
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didn’t shop around for more deals efficiently
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lost control over my deal
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lost some repour with seller
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didn’t go to closing
After the smoke settles….
I pocketed 1 grand and what I thought would turn out to be a good quality friend/mentor relationship while he pocketed at least $7,000 after selling it for 28k. I knew a cash buyer was out there somewhere but I just didn’t do enough digging. I didn’t exhaust every option.

Negotiation Tactics
Don’t let ANYBODY tell your not knowledgeable. They can suggest something to you.That’s ok.
When I told him that I knew I had a great deal because it was worth 88k and we were only trying to get 28K, he hits me with the “I don’t mean any disrespect, but who are you to tell me about property values.”
I felt like I was kinda over stepping these non existent boundaries so I refrained from saying anything else like that. Didn’t want to make “my mentor” mad, right?
The good news, bad news is one of the oldest tricks in the book and I was 1 chapter away from learning about it.
Use it. Don’t have it used on you.
I was in a situation where I wanted to learn, wanted a mentor, needed the money and I was scared of losing the deal which brings me to my next point.
Just walk away
You can’t be scared to walk away from a deal. If YOUR deal is not going the way YOU want it to go, walk away from it.
Seller not cooperating, walk away. Your doing a service to them by bringing cash for their un-saleable home.
Without YOU, they wouldn’t get any money. Keep that in your head.
That’s where he got me telling me that he wasn’t making anything on this deal and he was just doing it to help me out of a jam.
If I didn’t want to cooperate, he’d walk and basically our friend/mentor relationship would be obsolete. He wasn’t afraid to walk but was he bluffing? What do you think?
Why did I trust him so darn much?
I feel that this is absolutely a race thing. As african americans, we don’t stick together. Most of us don’t look to help one another out but rather take advantage. I didn’t tell you everything he said. When he told me not to tell anyone I was new at wholesaling, he added
“Anybody else would try to swindle you out of a deal but see I got your back because were the same kind. We as a people have to stick together”
After hearing that, all my guard was let down. Don’t get me wrong; I love working with any and every race but knowing in the back of my mind that many of us African Americans don’t work together, I saw this as a perfect opportunity for change. For growth as a people; not just the two of us.
Guess we still have a ways to go.
Here’s the funny (deceitful) part
This is what, if you knew the guy, might make you look at him in a different light. Right before the closing date, he gives me a call saying some more liens and stuff came up on the property and that he had to put his neck on the line but after all this the seller would walk away with $97. 
Now I knew the seller. I knew he wouldn’t go for this. He would say to hell with the whole deal.
Well the actual reason for this was that he was trying to tell me that it was a skinny deal and that the most he would pay was 21k and this didn’t include closing costs. “I never pay closing costs” he brags and boasts.
Well as wholesalers, we assign contracts and I assigned all the rights of my contract to him in which buyer, not seller, pays all closing costs.
He said he must have missed that but I knew it was total hog wash. Not the agent who closes multiple deals making mistakes like not reading a one page contract.
All seasoned investors read contracts and so should you.
He told me that closing cost may have to come out of my money and to save the deal I would have to walk away with only $200 or $300. After telling my original mentor this, he told me to tell this dude no. No way.
Now comes the part where he tries to make me seem unprofessional for holding a deal up because I was trying to be selfish. He supposedly had all his money tied up in other projects so he couldn’t pay a penny over 21k.
Your not going to believe this
Next morning, he gave me a call saying he had made a mistake and read the H.U.D. wrong. He actually was paying closing costs and the buyer was still only walking away with about a hundred bucks. Sounds like crap to me. This was to make me rethink it even though he was paying everything. Trying to convince me that the deal might not go through.
After it was all said and done, the deal close and I picked up my check. I was happy and still am but I feel like that deal was stolen from me.
Hopefully you’ll take heed to my words and remember what not to do when your trying to network with other wholesalers. Well on to the next one. Hears a quote you may want to keep in the back of you mind
We’re all born brave, trusting, and greedy, and most of us remain greedy. ~Mignon McLaughlin
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